If you really think about it, much of our self-image has a lot to do with what we are told by others as they judge and/or evaluate our behavior, appearance, abilities or lack thereof, and so on. All of this business, this patterning of thinking, begins in childhood. Parents and others tell us we are good or bad depending on the circumstance. Others offer their opinions. We are, in a lot of ways, conditioned to believe that what others say about us is in fact, who we are.